Theresa Nickol

My activities at the moment are both business and pleasure depending on the acquaintance. I am a free-lance artist specializing in Murals, Portraits and Abstract Art. I am also working on many articles that will hopefully become a compilation of my life lessons and one day become a self-help read for others. I currently am finishing up my Associates Degree in Psychology through on-line courses. I have the ambition to complete this degree within the next year, if my schedule permits being a full-time employee and mother. My goal in life is to be heard from my travels of misfortune. To help others who are just as lost as I once was in my path to self realization. I have been told I can not only relate well to others, but offer up very realistic advice to those who are willing to listen. I also aspire to never spoil my children, but to love them. To guide them through their failures and cherish their accomplishments no matter the size. And whomever they choose to be in life, always be the driving force that encourages them to be inspirational human beings that remain true to themselves. My philosophy in life is: “We Are What Have Learned, Nothing More and Nothing Less. To get better as we get older and to love ourselves as we do our own children. Without this mentality you will settle for anything and expect nothing. It is only with the help of those who know the worst of you and love you regardless that you learn to love yourself. We cannot conquer world peace, but we can bring peace to the world within ourselves."

Theresa Nickol has written 6 posts for Life After Hate.

Cycles

By Theresa Nickol ⋅ March 12, 2011 ⋅ 3 comments

It’s been almost 2 years since he controlled me. It’s not easy letting go of the sadistic routine; calculating when the situation turns from dreadful to alarming. At least in this predictable setting I could see the abuse unfolding and knew exactly when and where it would strike. I was able to protect my children; [...]

To My Girls

By Theresa Nickol ⋅ December 3, 2010 ⋅ One comment

My Child: You have been my motivation…my inspiration in my failures and the joy in my struggles. Whenever I thought life was impossible and I couldn’t take another day; I had you to fuel me. I used to pray at night for a miracle and I was blessed with you; my purpose to be better. [...]

Living Again

By Theresa Nickol ⋅ November 18, 2010 ⋅ 3 comments

Learning to live again outside the shackles of an abusive situation holds the maximum test: just being normal. How do you just be normal? How do you revert back to who you were before the damage was done? There is no easy button for this. It takes raw emotion and shear determination to crave normalcy. [...]

The Day After

By Theresa Nickol ⋅ October 18, 2010 ⋅ 4 comments

I awake from a collapsed sleep… E x h a u s t e d…No it’s not a dream…just breathe… tears… What’s that noise?…check the kids… It’s your foot grazing the hardwood floor…relax. There’s no intruder, he is in jail. He can’t hurt you right now. Not sure when he will get out but for [...]

Flags

By Theresa Nickol ⋅ September 18, 2010 ⋅ 3 comments

The flags were waving directly in front my face very early in my relationship. Whether I chose to ignore them or intentionally avoided them I still am unsure. It is a puzzling question to sort through once you are free and clear. You see each episode recurring in your mind and you are screaming at [...]

This is where my story comes in…

By Theresa Nickol ⋅ August 18, 2010 ⋅ One comment

To trust again is very crippling, almost paralyzing in some ways. The biggest door to open is the emotional one we will not open once we are broken. To reverse back to infancy or a stage of pure innocence does not happen no matter how many therapy sessions we attend or self-help books we buy. [...]

Sammy Rangel “FOURBEARS: Myths of Forgiveness”

FourBears: The Myth of Forgiveness: isn't a simple memoir; it is a graphically illustrated guide from tortured child, to remorseless beast, to healing and change. This book is about helping others find their way out of their history and into the here and now. Proof that what once held you down can now hold you up. After the book reflects on a horrific upbringing it looks to offer key and ground breaking insights of the inner workings of the mind of a victim and later a perpetrator of hate and violence. Service providers working in treatment centers and institutional settings would greatly benefit from this work. Anyone facing issues with forgiveness and change might find a process toward healing and recovery.